A year ago I challenged my mother to get her affairs in order and to put her wishes in writing. She has a plot in the cemetery with her two sisters and brother in law, but had made no other arrangements. I spoke to the mortuary who will handle all the logistics when the time comes. If she is not on hospice then her doctor will need to sign the death certificate. At that point, I didn’t even know her doctor’s name. She wants to be buried right away with no one at the grave except her two daughters. We no longer discuss this as I have the information I need. I believe that funerals, memorials, wakes, post graveside gatherings are for the living to grieve and reminisce in community. I’m sure that many of the people who stop by to visit her now will have great tales to share.
— KathyV
— KathyV
Your writing here blends of matter-of-factness and caring. I am glad you are as ready as you can be. I hope your mother appreciates you.
ReplyDeleteMy daughter had asked for years that I get powers of attorney done so that if (when? yikes!) I'm incapacitated, it's clear that she's my medical proxy and also has power of attorney for my business affairs. I finally got those done at the first of this year. I'm glad it's done. It was very, very hard, though, thinking about the actuality of my leave taking. Perhaps there'll be a prompt for that story.
Thanks for your story from the daughter's point of view.
I can count on you for the Report from Reality! Oh, my. (Macoff)
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