Just because a woman gave birth to me doesn’t mean I have a debt to take care of her now. My mother was a young wife when I was born and she has been in denial about aging and death her whole life. Consequently, her affairs are not in order, her finances are a shitshow, and even her closest friends are starting to avoid her. My sister and I took the car away in November when she started getting lost. I am going to visit her today and take her to a doctor appointment and bring her a few things. I am going to pray for patience and kindness with this bitter angry person. I guess I’ll have to work on forgiveness, too.
— KathyV
— KathyV
KathyV: I was like that about my mother, too. My older sister took care of Mama in her last years until Mama died. I was surprised, then, at the suddenness and sharpness of my grief - not that I felt guilt for not having liked her. I realized that she had been a mountain on the landscape of my life and now that mountain was gone. My grown children felt much the same toward their dad who died last May. Best wishes as you travel this time ...
ReplyDeleteYou are doing your best in difficult circumstances with perhaps invisible rewards... (from Macoff, fellow Dipper)
ReplyDeleteIt can be so hard. I understand. Be kind to yourself also.
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